Would you like to Design Your Future?
Read this if you're a 28-year-old who has only been in your first job out of college for a few years or a 47-year-old who is afraid to quit to follow your true career dreams, or anyone who wonders if there’s a better life than the daily grind.
If you want to beat the fear that keeps you stuck, try awakening, disrupting, and designing.
When you’re in a career you hate, the hardest part is breaking free. Usually, it’s so difficult that external events like getting fired are the only way you can get out. This is exactly what happened to me, but it was just the push I needed to start the life I now love.
There are many reasons that we stay stuck and at the forefront of them is fear of the unknown. Will your dream career pay the bills? And what if you become even more miserable than you are now?
You also might struggle with the fear of the emotional drain you experience when going through big changes.
What you don’t see, however, is how awful the emotional toll is of letting things stay the way they are.
Change hurts, but it’s far less painful than continuing an awful relationship or keeping a job you hate.
So you know that you want to break free, but how do you do it? Here's three steps to start:
To wake up to see the awful state you’re in, use the power of mindfulness. Observe your actions and habits to see the patterns you follow that keep you stuck. Especially focus on the things you do that make you unhappy.
Disruption comes next. To do this, experiment with ways to change your routine and see how it makes a difference. You’ll only see how good things can be when you try something new!
Once you have an idea of what works, you can start designing your life, which is what the rest of this book is about.
To get inspired with the courage to change course, visualize what your life will be like in the future if you don’t change.
One of the things that terrified me the most about my career situation before I changed it was what my manager’s lives were like. They worked 60, even 70+ hour weeks, hardly ever took vacations and they were plain horrible to their staff.
I promised myself I would never live like that but it wasn’t easy at first to realize this was where I was heading unless I quit.
It’s hard to connect with our future selves, and MRI scans confirm this. Economist Hal Hershfield found that brain scans of people who are thinking about their future selves are just the same as if they were thinking of a complete stranger!
To beat this, visualize your future self. One of my clients did this with great success.
He was miserable in his sales job and considered his motivation, relationships, and what he’d look like in the future. The guy saw himself becoming unless he changed course was frightening. It was just the motivation he needed to get going on making his dreams happen. He created his future-self plan and quit his job to embark on his new life!
You can have the same experience, just ask yourself where you’ll end up in a few years if you keep going on the path you’re on!
Success comes to those who follow daily rituals and keep track of their progress toward their goals with a scorecard.
About a year ago I set up my first Goals Playbook to plan my new life. I was amazed at how quickly I began changing things that seemed so difficult before.
I used GoalsPlaybook to redesign my life. As I completed my goals I gained more confidence. I could see that I really could achieve my dreams.
And on days that didn't go to plan, I could just look at all the other days I'd succeeded to keep things into perspective. It’s a lot easier to stick with it when you know that a slip up is only one failure in the middle of a dozen successes!
It’s also helpful to make your evenings effective with rituals that set you up for victory. Start by limiting devices, meditating, planning your day, or the next day if it’s the evening.
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